I am going to be honest straight from the start and admit that flogging is not something I have ever tried….unless we are talking about my teenage days, ticket touting around the university buildings to local students. I may have flogged tickets to see upcoming bands as well as knock-off copies of their demo tapes.
We have noticed other bloggers have mentioned flogging. I have always felt as if Ben and I had a great sex life, and I still do, but we sometimes feel boring compared to some of the other bloggers out there. Ben has a thing for a pert behind. He enjoys draping me over his lap and spanking me. It’s not a form of discipline and he never hurts me, however it is erotic. It is often part of a roleplay scene we are playing out in foreplay. Ben likes a bit of roleplay.
But flogging? I have seen those floggers with the leather tassels and they look kinda fearsome to me, although in the picture above, I was more disturbed by the anaglypta wallpaper. It struck me though that most of the flogging scenarios I have read about are females flogging males. I am sure there are exceptions. That’s where I am lacking in interest.
I do not like the idea of trying to make Ben submit to me, standing over him with a flogger. It just would not work. Ben is so perfect. I can’t bear the thought of making any marks on his idyllic body, especially not his his cute tushy. There is equality in our relationship, but if either of us were to submit it would be me. I am the naughty sex kitten, the partner who likes to tease and play, and be affectionate. I like to devote attention to him and find ways to please him and win his approval. I like to be irresistible to him.
It is interesting to read the accounts of other bloggers. We glean lots of inspiration for writing more fantasy fiction and we have tried out some things we read about in the bedroom. It is fun. But I guess the dynamics of a relationship between any two people are always going to be different. Although it is interesting to read what others have written about flogging, I don’t see myself handling a flogger or giving Ben a good flogging. I have worn fishnet tights on occasion. Never would I dream of having anaglypta wallpaper. OK, let’s say this, if I were to come home one day and Ben had decided to put anaglypta on our walls, then perhaps I would order a flogger and make it clear to Ben that I was not pleased.