When I first saw the 4 THOUGHTS or FICTION prompt I was stumped. My mind was completely blank at the thought of “personal traditions”. I did not think I had any personal traditions at all. I asked Ben and he said, “Sure you do…” and he reminded me of little habitual aspects of my life. For example, I thoroughly clean the kitchen every Sunday and we always relax together in the evening with a glass of wine before our busy week ahead. That has become a weekly tradition. Yeah, great – cleaning the kitchen every Sunday – how impressive! NOT!
I also felt a little discouraged that near the top of Ben’s list was manicures, detoxes after the holidays, girl’s nights out, binge listening to any new album from Taylor Swift, and sorting out my closet at the end of each season. Is that it? Is that all I can say for personal traditions? I was a little upset about that. To me the idea of a tradition is something deeply meaningful and significant. My habits seemed rather shallow.
Ben disagreed with me. He said that my healthy habits are all an important part of a healthy balanced life. He said that my efforts to take care of myself physically, with exercise, good food and sleep….
…my mental health, with relaxation and self-care….
…my emotional and spiritual health, with time to think deeply, strengthen friendships and to express my gratitude for all the good in my life…
..and to fortify my relationship with Ben, enjoying all aspects of our life together…
…are all valuable and are part of creating personal traditions that carve the person I am.
I guess so…only this subject has made me think more about the personal traditions I wish to create in my life. My younger years were broken up, lots of travelling, staying with relatives instead of being with my parents…I don’t feel that there were traditional aspects of our life. Ben has been very good at addressing areas of my life that may have been neglected in the past. He has helped me to have more regular communication with my parents for example. We are trying to make that a traditional aspect of each weekend. His family do have traditions and I find it fascinating how much they mean to their whole family.
There are some traditions I would like to incorporate into our lives – some of them will only be possible when pandemic social distancing restrictions lift. But I think it would be good for Ben and I to think of what we want to make traditional aspects of our life together. We want to make time for us as a couple, time communicating with family and spending time with the friends we love the backbone of our life. We also want to make sure that breathing in nature, stargazing, and walking in the countryside are integral parts of who we are.
The subject of personal traditions has made me think of what I want to be a celebratory habitual feature of our life together. There is still time. We can fill our life with personal traditions in the same way we have filled our home with photographs of us together, with family and with friends. I guess it is part of life – forging your own new personal traditions that characterise you as a person, as a couple, as a family.
Oh my mind just jumped….right, so I know of one tradition I have always enjoyed. I have been on so many group vacations with friends over the years – arriving at the airport and having Guinness and a full English breakfast – that is always the most awesome way to start a vacation with friends. I am looking forward to the future when we can resume that tradition.