So many of the writing prompts I see cause me to become introspective. I don’t know why that is. I genuinely started this blog intending to write fiction! But in some ways, thinking about a subject and how it stirs your thoughts and feelings is like therapy. I had set out with an introspective post in mind today, but instead I am going to use this prompt to try to respond to something I have found discouraging over the past few months.
When I think of this word or this phenomenon of “PERSONALITY” I guess I think of what we carry within us – in terms of our attitudes, characteristics, qualities, behaviours that make us unique. We may have similar character traits – but it is the combination that makes us distinctive.
I guess it is a bit like cake! If you go to a patisserie or a bakery – you will see a display of cakes, and most of them will have common ingredients – but they are all distinctive. A fresh glazed fruit tart or luxurious creamy custard slice, or a picante raspberry macaron or bitter chocolate torte, or a fluffy vanilla sponge – they have similar ingredients, but each has their own distinctive combination that gives them a distinctive twist.
They all belong though. They are all there for a reason. People will come and admire them, some will be tempted and will purchase the cake they are most attracted to.
Now, if you are wondering why the hell I am going on about cakes (and yes, I guess it maybe partly because I am hungry) I will clear up the confusion and come to the point.
This is my personality dealing with a situation that has been discouraging me for some time. I am addressing this post to the individual who has been leaving comments on my posts (comments which Ben said not to approve) telling me that I do not belong here. I am not going to say who you are, don’t worry, that is not my style, but these words are for you.
You keep on using the same words in your comments that I am perhaps incorrectly interpreting as a sign you simply don’t like me or my writing. Saying that my posts are boring, vanilla, pathetic, homophobic, racist or one of the curse words you used – I am not sure how to interpret that other than presuming you don’t want me to to publish posts at all.
My personality is fairly easy going and mild (although I have my moments!) The only reason I have not replied to your comments is that I don’t know what to say. I don’t want any contention. That’s not my personality.
As far as I see there are a lot of writers on WordPress who have their own distinctive personality, their own writing style, their own flavours, their own characteristics. To me we are like a patisserie – we may be made of some of some similar ingredients – but we are are all unique, we all bring something distinctive to the table,, and we all belong. I might not match your preferences, but I believe there are some who find me and my writing delicious.
I counted through your comments. You have used the word “vanilla” about me thirty times. I don’t have a problem with that word. I don’t. I think you are using it as a criticism though. You are perfectly entitled to your opinion. As far as I am concerned, I am actually raspberry ripple. But as it is obvious to many – raspberry ripple is generally vanilla ice-cream with a tart fruity vibrant sauce swirled throughout it and some fresh zingy juicy raspberries. It is ok if you don’t like it. You don’t have to enjoy every single cake in a patisserie. It’s fine to have your own preferences.
I am very pleased to be me. I like my personality. Ben loves me. That’s what matters most. But in addition, there are a lot of other writers and bloggers, all with their own distinctive personalities and writing styles, who have made me feel welcome to be me. Nobody else has used the words you have used about me or my writing. Recently I have been in a lot of physical pain with my back, and I am finding I am more easily discouraged than usual.
So I am going to make a polite request to you. If you are really not enjoying my posts, please just press that “unfollow” button. But if you do wish to continue viewing them, please don’t keep telling me I should not be writing erotica and that I do not belong here. This is my style of erotica and it is in harmony with my personality.
We all have our personality and style – but we also have some common ingredients. Most writers celebrate that we have our own distinctive characters and are glad to have such a variety of writing. But in this world, most of us are attracted to one personality trait above any other – KINDNESS. So, may I ask if you do have some specific critique to offer me, could I politely ask you to find a kinder way to express it please?