October’s FLIRTY FUN


Have you ever had surgery? Or had a serious illness to contend with?

So, maybe this is an overly personal question. Please don’t share anything you are uncomfortable with. I have recently had surgery to remove a lump that was growing in my back, and this month I have to start having radiotherapy.

I wondered if any of you have faced similar health issues and if so, what helped you to deal with those challenges? Do you have any advice or comforting words that helped you, and might help the likes of me?

29 replies on “October’s FLIRTY FUN”

When I was in my twenties, I was rushed into hospital and had some surgery. Afterwards I had a post-op infection that caused me lots of problems. In the following year, I had three more operations and was in and out of hospital several times with infections. They told me my immune system was thrashed at the time. I had lots of courses of antibiotics and had to go to nutritionists and rest rest rest and eat eat eat to build my body’s strength back up.

At the time I struggled emotionally because it felt like my illness would never end. But eventually I started to notice a difference in my body. My energy levels gradually increased.

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Hi Jenna, over the years, my son has had 14 surgeries on every different area of his body literally from his head to his feet and everywhere in between. His last surgery was to reroute his bladder to a Urostomy stoma on his stomach so that his kidneys could recover some function as they were both in imminent danger of failing.
All that said, I was on the outside looking in and my coping strategies are simple ones, leave the emotion of it all to one side until it is all over and done with and the healing process has done its work. Then deal with how you feel about it all later when you have the head space to allow yourself to give your emotions free reign for a while. He is my life and the thought of losing him frightens me like nothing else can. I had to put all of that fear to one side and just be there for him and give him the strength he needed to get well again.
On a personal front, I have had a couple of surgeries, the main one being a hysterectomy when I was just 34. The mental anguish of knowing I would never be able to have another child was far outweighed by the choices the specialist gave me. He told me I had severe endometriosis and I could either have the hysterectomy or I would be dead in 6 months.
No contest. I had the surgery, I recovered quickly (roughly 6 weeks) and because they had found pre-cancerous cells in my blood work they also removed the ovaries. It put me on the change instantly. That was difficult to cope with but I used the same coping strategies to deal with it all. Basically, I was alive and everything from that point on was doable, I just had to learn a different set of rules to live by.
I have never had to deal with what you’re going through, lumps being removed and radiotherapy are outside of my experience but I will say this, you are alive, and where there is life there is hope. Whatever treatment you have to have, it is to better widen your chances of surviving and living the rest of your life happily with Ben. To look at it any other way would be to add unnecessary mental pressure to your already overloaded emotional and mental state.
Your own inner strength will help you walk to the end of this road you’re on and you will look back one day soon and be amazed at how quickly you got to the other side.
It’s very easy for us all to say, stay positive, you can do this, we’re here for you etc but ultimately this fight is yours to deal with. You have to find the mental strength to pick yourself up and say you’ve got this you can do it. Only you can get you through this Jenna. The rest of us can only watch and support from the side lines.
The Miss Pink I know and have come to love, is indeed a strong lady who can and does deal with issues life throws at her. This is no different to any other issue Jenna, there is a problem, a potential solution and an end in sight if you take the solution and embrace it. De-emotionalise the whole thing until you are in a better, safer, stronger head space to deal with it. After the treatment.
Worry only makes things harder to deal with and does not give any solutions to the problems you face.
Much love to you darling girl xxx

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Hey Gemma!
I am not having a good day, but I have been so touched by your comments recently. I just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to share so much that has encouraged me.
I am completely wiped out today, so I am going to say goodbye for now. I just want you to know your words are very special to me. ❤

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I has a swollen testicle that was very painful, so I called my doctor on Tuesday when the pain got real bad and they gave me an appointment for Friday. The female doctor examined me and she said that she had never seen anything like this before and she asked me if it would be OK for her to bring another doctor in to look ay me. I told her to do what ever she had to do, because I was really hurting and I just wanted it to end. The other doctor was also a female and actually all the doctors at this practice were women and that is why I liked this place, as I don’t like men touching me. the second doctor is rubbing both of my testicles to compare the difference between the swollen one and the normal one and she tells me, “Did you know that you have retractable testicles?” I didn’t know that was strange and I said, “Doesn’t everybody have that?” She said that was common in young boys, but once they drop down into the sack, they usually aren’t able to be pushed back up. I could see this doctor was on the wrong track as she was concentrating on my testicle that wasn’t swollen, but eventually she said that they should get the lead doctor in here to see what she thought.
She saw how swollen my testicle was and she wondered how I could stand the pain and I told her that I called on Tuesday, but that I got an appointment for Friday. She said that they could have got me an emergency appointment if I had explained how bad my situation was and she apologized that I had to wait so long for an appointment. She told me that she could not help me and that I needed to see a urologist to get help and she said that she would make me an emergency appointment and I could drive there and this doctor would treat me as soon as I arrived. This was a male doctor which I didn’t want, but the pain was so bad that I just wanted it to go away. He examined me and he told me that after his nurse shaved my scrotum (bag of skin that holds my testicles), that he was going to lance it and then I would be on antibiotics and have to change the dressing on the surgical wound. He did a urine test and he told me that I had diabetes because there was a lot of sugar in my urine and that is what caused my testicle to swell up.

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I’ve had a few health challenges, surgery for cysts, a blood infection being the most traumatic and near death experience. I have felt damaged and anxious about not being at my best often. While I attribute those tendencies towards those feelings to a poor childhood they are related directly to the varying health issues.
The times I’m unable to be my normal self I focus on mind things, yoga, mindfulness in meditation, listening to other peoples stories of a similar kind and writing.
I’m terribly sorry you have to go through these things, it touches me and I hope it all eases sooner than later. My best to you ❤️

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Thyroid cancer.

My advice….be at peace with yourself. You did nothing to deserve this. Enjoy and treasure every moment of life, every friendship and relationship with family. Make time for the things you love. Eat, sleep and sing all you want. Read, work, write letters – keep your mind busy. And….cry. Some days it will all get to you – it is ok to cry about it. Figure out which of your friends you can offload to. You will need to be able to turn to someone and tell them how you are really feeling some days.

Most of all remember that you are loved, and you have lots of wonderful things ahead of you.

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My top tip is get to know your pharmacy team. Always remember that although they will have a good stock of medicines, they sometimes have to order a medicine in for you. Most orders will come quickly. Anything we order before 12 noon is normally delivered by five o’clock that afternoon. Anything we order during the afternoon before 6pm comes before noon the next day. Occasionally some items are harder to get hold of. We can find out from the supplier’s website if an item is not available from the manufacturers. Keep good communication with them. They may have a delivery service if that helps you.

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Serious car crash 1987 – with personal people losses. Terrible time – only had a small surgery for a knee injury but had to deal with my grief and have never driven again.

it took me a very long time to recover because l thought l could do it by myself – l couldn’t and it broke me many times over the following years.

My advice is believe in yourself for sure, BUT surround yourself with good people who love and care for you and know that despite the darkness, there is light at the end of the tunnel. But above everything ……… don’t believe that you can get through it always alone BUT also, don’t think that you can’t.

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Hey Rory – that must have been incredibly tough for you. I think you really hit the nail on the head though. when you have not only the physical affects of an injury or illness, but also intense grief to deal with – it must be a very dark place. You are such a giving person, and always seem to have so much energy and creativity despite personal challenges. You are an inspiration.

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Not me, but lots of family have. I think that was why I wanted to study medicine, the miracles the surgeons and doctors seemed to have performed.

You are under the care of the best cancer service in the UK Jenna, so don’t be frightened.

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1/19/1979, gave myself my first injection of insulin. Officially a T1DM since. Gone through a lot since. Went to England with Uni that fall with a bunch of syringes and bottles of insulin. When first diagnosed, was told take 25 years off my lifespan. For a 19 year old, kinda tough. 42 years late, I am pretty much okay. But chronic illness contributes to mood problems….(hmmm, why I became a Psychiatrist???LOL).
Always here to listen, you know that.

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